From misunderstanding to mutual respect

We all want the same things—we just say them differently.

Is it because if the age gap? No. The real source is usually a breakdown in how we express, and interpret our needs.

Across the board, we seek:

• Respect

• Purpose

• Growth

• And most of all, a voice that’s heard

  
  

But shaped by different experiences, each generation brings its own language and expectations into the conversation. Let's unpack this in three steps:

1. Intentional listening

I know, I know, this might sound boring but it really IS the heart of everything. It means understanding not just what’s said, but what’s meant.

Some examples to show how this can play out:

• “I want flexibility” might mean “I need autonomy”

• “Can I get more feedback?” might be asking for recognition

• Silence may represent thoughtful reflection, not disinterest

  
  

How to do this?

The key is curiosity. Dropping assumptions lets us truly hear each other and build trust.

2. Make space for voice and style

Respect shows up in how we make room for others’ authentic expression.

Each generation brings its own flavor:

• Gen X leans toward independence and security

• Millennials often seek mission alignment with active collaboration

• Gen Z communicates rapidly, digitally, and boldly

  
  

Instead of trying to smooth over those differences, what if we celebrated them? Asking questions like “What does success look like to you?” opens up shared understanding and psychological safety.

3. Bridge through mentorship and co-creation

Growth isn’t a one-way street. It's mutual.

Mentorship thrives when it’s cross-generational - and again, two-way, where:

• Wisdom meets innovation and boldness

• Experience meets fresh perspective

• Legacy meets reinvention

  
  

As The Coaching Habit (written by Michael Bungay Stanier - I recommend this book from the bottom of my heart!) reminds us:

“People…start learning…only when they have a chance to recall and reflect on what just happened.”

But it is way harder to do it alone. Of course, you can journal or you can talk about it to your coach or therapist... But you can also just harvest a relationship that you already have (with your lead or with your direct!)

The gap isn’t as wide as it seems. When we truly listen, honor diverse styles, and invite collaborative growth, we replace misunderstanding with respect and create a workplace where everyone can belong.

Have you ever heard about the SCARF model? I am going to write about that soon too.